ABSTRACT

Psychoanalytic Reflections on Parenting Teens and Young Adults explores the rich, multi-layered parent-child interactions that unfold during the period of separation and launching. While this is a necessary transitional time, parents inevitably experience feelings of loss and longing for the past as well as hope for the future.

With honesty, humor, and originality, the book brings together the voices of psychoanalysts, speaking frankly, and not just as professionals, but also as parents grappling with raising young adults in today’s fast-paced world. The contributors reflect on the joys, regrets, and surprises as well as the challenges and triumphs they experience as their children reach the threshold of young adulthood. They address a wide range of topics relevant to parents and practitioners alike-indeed to all those who are closely involved with the growth and maturation of today’s youth. Offering both a broad perspective and an intimate look at present-day parenting dilemmas, the chapters focus on five main areas of interest: raising youth in the digital age, developmental difficulties, evolving gender norms, social concerns and, finally, the building of resiliency.

Psychoanalytic Reflections on Parenting Teens and Young Adults offers an alternative lens to consider the complex challenges parents face in raising today’s teens and young adults, replacing the customary notion of "failure to launch" with the concept of "holding on with open arms." The explorations in this book advance the idea that in the end, these struggles are essential for growth, buoyancy and wisdom. It will appeal greatly to psychoanalysts and psychoanalytic psychotherapists, as well as family therapists.

chapter |6 pages

Introduction

part I|31 pages

Parenting in the digital age

part II|55 pages

Developmental concerns

chapter 3|12 pages

Holding on with open arms

Adult children living at home

chapter 4|12 pages

It is hard to see the forest when the trees are too loud

Notes on autism parenting

chapter 6|14 pages

Parenting my disabled sister

chapter 7|11 pages

Parenting through enactments of loss

part III|31 pages

Unbound

chapter 8|6 pages

Personal essay

Mapping modern grief

chapter 9|7 pages

Transparenting

Journey without a map

chapter 10|16 pages

Gay fatherhood and the homosexual imaginary

Reparative fantasies, parenting across the gender divide, and good-enough narratives

part IV|45 pages

Social topics

chapter 11|18 pages

Raising children cross-culturally

chapter 12|10 pages

Book versus booze

chapter 13|15 pages

“Likening” the “other”

Identifying and dis-identifying in adoptive parenting

part V|25 pages

Building resilience

chapter 14|4 pages

Personal essay

Shining through

chapter 15|17 pages

No going back to before

chapter |2 pages

Concluding remarks