ABSTRACT
This chapter examines the pair counseling relationship of Kenny and Carl through sharing experiences and emotional roles in the pair world, developed greater social interest and competence that appears to have transferred back into the classroom. The relationship of Kenny and Carl illustrates the processes of engendering and assuming affect by focusing on how each boy initially made the other feel inferior when he himself had felt slighted, attacked, or rejected. The chapter shows how positive social roles and personal identities can be created, maintained, and transformed by emotional experiences in close relationships. Assumed affect refers to the experience of emotion that results from creating or taking upon oneself a particular affective experience. Engendered affect, whether it results from diverse activities such as aggression, retaliation, storytelling, empathizing, mentoring, or enacting particular roles in a close relationship, becomes a way of recycling affective experiences from one person to another.
