This informative and helpful guide will assist your clients in making positive strides toward a nonviolent life. Some of the tips and suggestions that are further explained in this workbook include:

  • Acknowledge to yourself and to others that you have a problem with anger, abuse, and control
  • Address mental health and chemical use issues if they are present in your life
  • Come to know that, when you become abusive, you are always feeling inadequate, powerless, and unlovable
  • Realize that controlling and abusive behavior hurts you and those you love
  • Understand that anger is different from abuse and control
  • Recognize that becoming abusive is always a choice
  • Instead of blaming others, take responsibility for what you feel, how you think, and how you act
  • Accept that you cannot control or change other people
  • Remember that you can always take a time-out
  • Think about the possible consequences before you become controlling and abusive
  • Identify what triggers your anger and your abusive and controlling attitudes and behaviors
  • Notice what you are thinking: Your thoughts can increase your escalation or calm you down
  • Become aware of all your feelings, not just your anger, and learn to respectfully communicate them to others
  • Turn conflicts into positive problem-solving opportunities
  • Control, abuse, and violence are learned: Think about the messages you received from your family and from society about what it is to be a man
  • Redefine manhood as nonviolent and nonabusive
  • Take the risk to count on other men for emotional support
  • Learn to feel a genuine sense of pride by taking control of how you view the world and how you act
  • Start to believe that you can truly change the controlling and abusive parts of who you have been

chapter |13 pages

Introduction to the Client Workbook

part 1|37 pages

The Intake Handouts

part 2|48 pages

The Domestic Abuse Group Member Booklet

part 3|206 pages

The Educational Handouts

chapter 1|35 pages

Abuse and Its Effects

chapter 2|26 pages

Stress and Stress Management

chapter 3|14 pages


chapter 4|21 pages


chapter 5|33 pages

Shame and Empowerment

chapter 6|12 pages

Culture of Origin

chapter 7|19 pages


chapter 8|23 pages

Communication and Conflict Resolution

chapter 9|9 pages

Self-Esteem and Healthy Relationships

chapter 10|3 pages


chapter 11|1 pages

Women's Perspective on Abuse and Violence

chapter 12|2 pages

The Ongoing Recovery Process