ABSTRACT

This informative and helpful guide will assist your clients in making positive strides toward a nonviolent life. Some of the tips and suggestions that are further explained in this workbook include:

  • Acknowledge to yourself and to others that you have a problem with anger, abuse, and control
  • Address mental health and chemical use issues if they are present in your life
  • Come to know that, when you become abusive, you are always feeling inadequate, powerless, and unlovable
  • Realize that controlling and abusive behavior hurts you and those you love
  • Understand that anger is different from abuse and control
  • Recognize that becoming abusive is always a choice
  • Instead of blaming others, take responsibility for what you feel, how you think, and how you act
  • Accept that you cannot control or change other people
  • Remember that you can always take a time-out
  • Think about the possible consequences before you become controlling and abusive
  • Identify what triggers your anger and your abusive and controlling attitudes and behaviors
  • Notice what you are thinking: Your thoughts can increase your escalation or calm you down
  • Become aware of all your feelings, not just your anger, and learn to respectfully communicate them to others
  • Turn conflicts into positive problem-solving opportunities
  • Control, abuse, and violence are learned: Think about the messages you received from your family and from society about what it is to be a man
  • Redefine manhood as nonviolent and nonabusive
  • Take the risk to count on other men for emotional support
  • Learn to feel a genuine sense of pride by taking control of how you view the world and how you act
  • Start to believe that you can truly change the controlling and abusive parts of who you have been

chapter |14 pages

Introduction to the Client Workbook

part |2 pages

PART 1: THE INTAKE HANDOUTS

chapter |6 pages

Understanding Your Anger

chapter |7 pages

Types of Abusive Behavior

chapter |3 pages

Using Time-Outs

chapter |2 pages

Domestic Abuse Group Description

chapter |5 pages

Escalation Prevention Plan

chapter |8 pages

Abuse Questionnaire-M

part |2 pages

PART 2: THE DOMESTIC ABUSE GROUP MEMBER BOOKLET

chapter |2 pages

How to Use This Booklet

chapter |2 pages

Domestic Abuse Group Description

chapter |3 pages

Group Rules and Expectations

chapter |3 pages

How to Participate in Group

chapter |2 pages

Domestic Abuse Group Members' Tasks

chapter |3 pages

Task I: Introduction

chapter |3 pages

Task II: Exercise Program

chapter |2 pages

Task III: Individual Member Goals

chapter |5 pages

Task IV: Escalation Prevention Plan

chapter |3 pages

Task V: Time-Out Plan

chapter |3 pages

Task VI: Abuse Inventory

chapter |2 pages

Task VII: Midgroup Evaluation

chapter |1 pages

Task IX: Amends Letter

chapter |2 pages

Task XI: Violent Incident Assessment

part |2 pages

PART 3: THE EDUCATIONAL HANDOUTS

chapter |34 pages

Unit 1: Abuse and Its Effects

chapter |26 pages

Unit 2: Stress and Stress Management

chapter |14 pages

Unit 3: Anger

chapter |22 pages

Unit 4: Self-Talk

chapter |34 pages

Unit 5: Shame and Empowerment

chapter |12 pages

Unit 6: Culture of Origin

chapter |20 pages

Unit 7: Assertiveness

chapter |4 pages

Unit 10: Parenting

chapter |2 pages

Unit 12: The Ongoing Recovery Process