ABSTRACT

A moving and pioneering celebration of the male bisexual self that addresses biphobia in our society

In today’s sexual world, both straight and gay and lesbian communities still often refuse to accept the reality of bisexuality. Bi Men: Coming Out Every Which Way confronts head-on the limiting views that bisexuality is a transitional phase of sexual evolution or a simple refusal to accept being either homosexual or straight. This pioneering collection of moving personal essays by bisexual men and those who love them explores what it means to be bisexual in today’s monosexually oriented society.

The millennial shift in sexual perspectives draws more and more men to come out as being attracted to both women and men. Bisexual and bi-curious men will find comfort and camaraderie in these stories about coming out, its impact on family and marriage, evolving perspectives on bisexuals within the LGBT community, and the building of acceptance and affirmation for bisexuality and polyamory.

The nearly three dozen essays in Bi Men: Coming Out Every Which Way are told in the honest words of bisexuals, confirming the validity of their place in the world while illustrating that there are more bi men than anyone ever realized. These diverse and pioneering men’s stories reveal a long-disguised and unconventional truth—that bisexuality is a valid lifestyle that does not threaten either sexual camp. Each contributor to this collection affirms the innate fluidity of self, sexuality, family, and community, and proclaims that sexuality is truly diverse in its predispositions and creativity.

Bi Men: Coming Out Every Which Way separates its essays into four parts:

  • coming out and personal realization of bisexual nature
  • bisexuality’s effects on family and marriage
  • an examination of the shifting viewpoints of bisexuality within gay communities
  • ways in which bisexuals can affirm and respect their own desires and celebrate their sexual selves
These intimate stories address:
  • biphobia
  • monosexual prejudice
  • the impact on marriage
  • family issues
  • coming out to self, spouse, and family
  • political and community issues
  • religious and spiritual concerns
Bi Men: Coming Out Every Which Way is a vibrant, reassuring call to bisexuals, the bi-curious, or anybody who knows and loves a bisexual/bi-curious man, to read and more completely understand the unique issues of being bisexual while providing the ultimate affirmation of bisexuality’s existence.

chapter |9 pages

Introduction

part 1|66 pages

Discovering a Bisexual Self

chapter 1|8 pages

Feed the Leviathan

chapter 2|7 pages

Walking the Shifting Sands

chapter 3|12 pages

It's a Life

chapter 4|8 pages

The Road to Reality

chapter 5|10 pages

The Big Switch

chapter 6|8 pages

Learning to Look at Bisexuality

chapter 7|12 pages

Coming to Terms

part 2|62 pages

Extending Bonds of Marriage and Family

chapter 8|10 pages

Coming Out Bi and Large

chapter 9|7 pages

A Candle Burning at Both Ends

chapter 10|5 pages

Minus the Sexual

chapter 12|7 pages

Miniature Golf

chapter 13|8 pages

Long Journey Ahead

chapter 14|4 pages

Why Not Stay Married?

part 3|100 pages

Interacting in Evolving GLBTQ Communities

chapter 16|10 pages

Life Among the Monosexuals

chapter 17|6 pages

Half-and-Half?

chapter 18|8 pages

Thirty Years Out

chapter 19|8 pages

Coming Out Swinging

chapter 20|7 pages

To Fuck and Be Fucked

chapter 23|9 pages

Bi Now, Bi Tomorrow

chapter 24|8 pages

Magic Man

chapter 25|9 pages

Mission: Lighten Up!

chapter 26|8 pages

Adam's Treehouse

part 4|74 pages

Bridge-Building in Bisexual Spirit

chapter 27|8 pages

Choosing Not To

chapter 28|8 pages

Ex Exodus

chapter 29|8 pages

Loving Without Limits

chapter 30|11 pages

Whereto, My Beloved?

chapter 31|7 pages

The Sparrow Sings

chapter 32|8 pages

Beyond Bisexuality

chapter 33|14 pages

Liquid Ritual

chapter 34|8 pages

Is That Me Up There?