ABSTRACT

What do mothers want and need from their parenting partners, their extended families, their friends, colleagues, and communities? And what can mental health professionals do to help them meet their daunting responsibilities in the contemporary world? The talented contributors to What Do Mothers Want? address these questions from perspectives that encompass differences in marital status, parental status, gender, and sexual orientation. Traversing the biological, psychological, cultural, and economic dimensions of mothering, they provide a compelling brief on the perplexing choices confronting mothers in the contemporary world.

Of course, mothers most basically want their children to be safe and healthy. But to this end they want and need many things: caring partners, intergenerational and community support, a responsive workplace, public services, and opportunities to share their experiences with other mothers. And they want their feelings and actions as mothers to be understood and accepted by those around them and by society at large. The role of psychotherapy in reaching these latter goals is taken up by many of the contributors. They reflect on the special psychological challenges of pregnancy, birth, and the arrival of a newborn into a couple’s (whether hetero- or homosexual) life, and they address new venues of therapeutic assistance, such as brief low-cost therapy for at-risk mothers and infants and group interventions to help couples grow into the new role of parental couples.

part 1|128 pages

What Mothers Want and Need

chapter 1|16 pages

The Psychic Landscape of Mothers

chapter 2|17 pages

Loving and Hating Mothers and Daughters

Thoughts on the Role of Their Physicality

chapter 3|18 pages

What Mothers and Babies Need

The Maternal Third and Its Presence in Clinical Work

chapter 6|17 pages

What Is a Mother?

Gay and Lesbian Perspectives on Parenting

chapter 7|9 pages

It's A(p)Parent

New Family Narratives Are Needed

part 2|82 pages

Women's Bodies: Choices and Dilemmas

chapter 9|19 pages

“Too Late”

Ambivalence about Motherhood, Choice, and Time

chapter 10|20 pages

Pregnancy

chapter 12|18 pages

Layers Upon Layers

The Complicated Terrain of Eating Disorders and the Mother-Child Relationship

part III|38 pages

Pulling It All Together

chapter III 13|10 pages

Listen to My Words

Maternal Life in Colors and Cycles of Time

chapter III 14|26 pages

To Be Partners and Parents

The Challenge for Couples Who Are Parents