ABSTRACT

This accessible guide confronts myths and pressures surrounding men and sex, promoting a positive and healthy model of male sexuality that replaces traditional expectations.

The chapters in this book engage with cultural assumptions about male sexuality, from harmful early messaging, to the importance of enjoying intimacy, pleasure, and eroticism over the age of 60. The authors challenge the effects of toxic masculinity and traditional gendered roles in sex, celebrating sexual diversity, confronting double standards, and empowering men and couples to develop an equitable sexual bond. Case studies and psychosexual skill exercises are integrated throughout to make each concept personal and concrete, and incorporate the Good Enough Sex (GES) model to promote an authentic sexual self throughout the lifespan.

With a focus on mutual consent and pleasure, Contemporary Male Sexuality offers a new model of male sexuality that helps men and couples achieve a satisfying, secure, and sexual bond, replacing damaging expectations with healthy sexual values.

chapter 1|9 pages

Men Are Not Simple

Promoting Male and Couple Sexuality

chapter 2|9 pages

The Sexual War between Men and Women

Changing the Dialogue

chapter 3|8 pages

Confronting Contemporary Male Sexuality

Breaking the Abusive Cycle

chapter 4|9 pages

Female-Male Sexual Equity

Confronting the Double Standard

chapter 5|10 pages

The Sexual Development of Boys and Adolescents

Healthy and Unhealthy Learnings

chapter 6|10 pages

Young Adult Sexuality

Time for Change

chapter 7|11 pages

The New Sexual Mantra

Desire/Pleasure/Eroticism/Satisfaction

chapter 8|10 pages

Adult Sexuality

A New Model of Masculinity

chapter 9|9 pages

Desire

The Core of Sexuality

chapter 10|8 pages

Integrating Intimacy, Pleasuring, and Eroticism

Broad-Based Sexuality

chapter 11|10 pages

Developing Your Couple Sexual Style

The Autonomy/Couple Balance

chapter 12|11 pages

Good Enough Sex (GES)

Positive, Realistic Expectations

chapter 13|9 pages

Male Sexuality in the 60s, 70s, and 80s

Being a Wise Man

chapter 14|11 pages

Dealing with Sexual Problems

PE, ED, HSDD, and Ejaculatory Inhibition

chapter 15|10 pages

Variant Arousal

What Fits Your Relationship

chapter 16|11 pages

Gay Men Are First Class

Validating Sexual Diversity

chapter 17|11 pages

Monogamy vs. Consensual Non-Monogamy

Developing a Genuine Commitment