Shame, Pride, and Relational Trauma is a guide to recognizing the many ways shame and pride lie at the heart of psychotherapy with survivors of relational trauma. In these pages, readers learn how to differentiate shame and pride as emotional processes and traumatic mind/body states. They will also discover how understanding the psychodynamic and phenomenological relationships between shame, pride, and dissociation benefit psychotherapy with relational trauma. Next, readers are introduced to fifteen attitudes, principles, and concepts that guide this work from a transtheoretical perspective. Therapists will learn about ways to conceptualize and successfully navigate complex, patient-therapist shame dynamics, and apply neuroscientific findings to this challenging work. Finally, readers will discover how the concept and phenomena of pro-being pride, that is delighting in one's own and others' unique aliveness, helps patients transcend maladaptive shame and pride and experience greater unity within, with others, and with the world beyond.

chapter |8 pages


chapter 1|27 pages

Shame, Pride, and Relational Trauma

What Are They and Why Do They Matter in Psychotherapy?

chapter 2|37 pages

Shame and Pride

Subtypes and Processes

chapter 3|39 pages

Shame, Pride, Mind/Body Leave Taking, and Structural Dissociation

Psychodynamics, Phenomenology, and Psychotherapy

chapter 4|30 pages

Setting the Stage

Transtheoretical Attitudes, Principles, and Concepts When Working with Shame and Pride in Psychotherapy with Relational Trauma

chapter 5|32 pages

Psychotherapy with Patient, Therapist, and Dyadic Shame States

Traumatic Reactions, Therapeutic Responses, and Transformation

chapter 6|40 pages

From Shame to Pride

Psychotherapy, Neuroscience, and Applications—Three Perspectives

chapter 7|35 pages

Shame State to a Core Way of Being

Beyond Pro-being Pride to Radiant Joy, Grief, Integration, and Oneness