ABSTRACT
This book is essential for those who are prone to high-achieving, self-starting, and perfectionistic actions; people who relentlessly, persistently, and determinedly pursue their dreams, goals, and aspirations; people who hold their high standards, principles, and values close to their heart.
Chapter by chapter, you will learn acceptance and commitment skills to harness the power of perfectionism and high-achieving behaviors while living the life you want to live. You will learn how to be yourself, keep your fears in perspective, and do meaningful things without dwelling for hours on the different ways to make things right, postponing things because they aren’t ready, struggling for days with rumination, anxiety and stress, or wrestling periodically with harsh criticisms.
This book will show you how you can give your best, work hard, and push yourself when you deeply care about things without sacrificing your well-being, hurting your relationships, or compromising your health. You will learn when to engage in high-achieving actions in an effective, life-expansive, and skillful way. You will develop a new workable relationship with all those narratives about not being good enough and treat yourself with kindness, compassion, and caring. Most importantly, you will find that you can be yourself without losing yourself.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
chapter |1 pages
Introduction
section Section I|16 pages
What's Wrong With Caring Deeply?
chapter 1|3 pages
Why Bother With This Book?
chapter 2|2 pages
Doing Things Perfectly Makes Sense!
chapter 3|3 pages
Others Are Wrong, You're Right
chapter 4|3 pages
Flipping the Coin
chapter 5|3 pages
All Types of High-Achieving Actions
section Section II|25 pages
Unpacking Your Personal History
chapter 6|7 pages
How Come You Care So Much?
chapter 7|3 pages
The Many Shades of Fear
chapter 8|3 pages
Mistakes, Errors, Flaws
chapter 9|3 pages
A Special Type of Fear
chapter 10|4 pages
Mental Rubrics
chapter 11|3 pages
Personal Narratives
section Section III|22 pages
Harnessing the Power of High-Achieving and Perfectionistic Actions
chapter 12|2 pages
The Future of Caring Behaviors
chapter 13|6 pages
What Are Your Precious Values?
chapter 14|2 pages
Does It Really Matter?
chapter 15|2 pages
Important Questions, Important Answers
chapter 16|3 pages
One Year From Now
chapter 17|3 pages
“Doing Things Right” Is the Right Thing to Do, at Times
chapter 18|2 pages
What Game Are You Playing?
section Section IV|15 pages
The Workability Game
section Section V|51 pages
Pause and Play
chapter 22|3 pages
The Great Escape
chapter 23|3 pages
Fleeting Feelings
chapter 24|3 pages
Seizing and Freezing
chapter 25|2 pages
Overly Protective Friends
chapter 26|2 pages
To Buy or Not to Buy?
chapter 27|2 pages
Hold Them Lightly, Really!
chapter 28|3 pages
99 Percent
chapter 29|2 pages
This-Or-That Thoughts
chapter 30|3 pages
Minding and Unwinding
chapter 31|3 pages
Mini-Me Stories
chapter 32|2 pages
Terrible Feelings
chapter 33|2 pages
Pleased to Meet You!
chapter 34|3 pages
Plus and Minus
chapter 35|2 pages
Don't Go Down the Rabbit Hole!
chapter 36|3 pages
Daring to Be Kind!
chapter 37|3 pages
Vulnerabilities or Liabilities?
chapter 38|3 pages
Less Chasing, More Choosing
chapter 39|3 pages
When-Then Thoughts
chapter 40|2 pages
Tough Choices Need Kindness
section Section VI|44 pages
Onward and Upward!