ABSTRACT

"It’s easier to be a brain surgeon than a really good parent!"

No one finds it easy to be a parent of a teenager. How strict or easy-going should you be? What is the best way to support a teenager who is pushing you away? What do you do if homework is being ignored, or if a young person is up half the night on the phone or internet? How do you communicate with someone who seems not to be listening?

In this book, international expert, Oxford psychologist and father, Dr John Coleman, provides a new approach to parenting adolescents.

Why won’t my teenager talk to me? draws on ground-breaking research relating to brain development, sleep patterns in adolescence, and communication to offer a valuable tool enabling parents and carers to become more effective and resilient during this stage.

Based on the author’s long experience in running workshops for parents of teenagers, the combination of practical advice and research evidence will give readers an invaluable guide to the adolescent stage of life. The book draws on the voices and experiences of a wide range of parents of teenagers.

Talking and listening is at the heart of this book. Based on developing strategies for positive and respectful two-way communication, Dr Coleman’s revolutionary "STAGE" framework for parenting offers new insights and helps parents navigate the teenage years. Its aim is to improve relations between parents and teenagers, as well as to help professionals in their work with families. It will appeal to all parents and carers of teenagers, as well as to those in the fields of social work, counselling, health and education.

part I|62 pages

A new Framework for Parents

chapter 1|9 pages

Introduction

Why talking matters

chapter 2|12 pages

The STAGE Framework

A new way of thinking about parenting

chapter 3|5 pages

The Significance of Parents and Carers

chapter 4|9 pages

Two-Way Communication

chapter 5|10 pages

Authority

chapter 6|6 pages

The Generation Gap

chapter 7|9 pages

Emotion

part II|88 pages

Making Sense of the Teenager’s World

chapter 8|13 pages

Teenagers and Health

chapter 9|16 pages

Sex

chapter 10|11 pages

Friends and the Peer Group

chapter 11|15 pages

The Digital World

chapter 12|12 pages

Divorce and the Changing Family

chapter 13|12 pages

Risk-Taking and Challenging Behaviour

chapter 14|7 pages

Conclusion

How parents can make use of the STAGE framework