Bringing the giants down from the sky: Men, women, relationships and the problem of home

We inhabit living spaces (home, work, school, local and wider communities ± real and virtual) where it is not so easy to pick up an axe and get rid of the problem of gender. Instead, our consciousness about gender identity, similarity, difference, reality and illusion presses in on us, like the sky ± or the giants up there ± falling on our heads, thinning the air and sti¯ing our freedom to `be'. Likewise, when we hold a magnifying glass up to what gender is, the meanings scatter in all sorts of directions.