ABSTRACT
It is becoming apparent that an overall new direction is needed, both for sex therapy and for the study of sex itself. The focus on functioning has always dominated both the field and the larger culture. In what amounts to a black-box conception, what goes on between partners in bed is treated as no more than an outcome of what they bring to it, so there has not been much reason to pay attention to the sexual moment. Consequently, when we describe a couple as making love, we say more than we realize.
