ABSTRACT
Counselors who work with children, parents, families and teachers know how difficult it is for adults to alter their behavioral responses to children’s misbehavior. It is even more difficult for adults to change their emotional responses. While we Adlerians have many effective alternative behaviors for adults who deal with children, we seldom have specific suggestions for changing feelings. We know that in order to be effective in redirecting a child’s mistaken goal adults must not only alter their behavior, but must also refrain from, as Dreikurs called it, “shouting with their mouths shut.” In other words, adults must cease feeling annoyance, anger, hurt or despair.
