ABSTRACT
It has been estimated that only 35 percent of the couples in which a partner reveals an extramarital affair remain together (Pittman, 1990). Whether this statistic is seen as being high or low, it is important to our work with couples. First, the fact that any couples withstand such a disruption should perhaps direct us to investigate the glue that holds these partners together, as well as what tears them apart. Second, if an affair is actually a cry for help, the couple has to be guided to overcome this powerful symptom so that they may be enabled to learn communication skills and to create a sense of intimacy, connection, and bonding.
