ABSTRACT
This chapter discusses the course of a ten-year treatment of a woman whose protracted mourning of her father made it difficult to be emotionally available to others or to allow others to be available to her. The author argues that it was necessary for the treatment to extend over the course of years for enough trust to be established, for roles to be enacted, for her to recognize what was carried from their histories into the therapeutic space. She discusses mourned and unmourned losses, and how shared trauma is enacted through encounters with multiple self-states of patient and therapist.
