ABSTRACT
The author grew up in queer culture. Friends in the form of queer club performers started sneaking her into gay bars when she was fifteen. Once, in the gay bar, she was waiting in line for the women’s bathroom with several of her girlfriends and a girl gets in her face to say “What, because she in high heels she think she can use the women’s bathroom?” Under the dim lights and close quarters of a drag queen’s dressing room did she find paradise, and first learn about queer men and female pronouns. At the FIFE club of the Qmunity of Charlottesville, each officer went around the room saying their name, title, and pronouns. With female AND male pronouns on the author's nametag, she still only announced her preference as male. When did people allow societal evils like sexism to permeate the gay community? Internalized misogyny as it exists for gay men surfaces in femme bashing and femme exclusion.
