ABSTRACT
The teacher, the preacher, the social worker, the consultant, the agricultural expert, the marriage counsellor, the home demonstration agent are all saying to those they work with, 'Letme helpyou to change. Letme helpyou begin to cope with whatever is making it hard foryou to succeed'. Sometimes the fear is unrealistic, and this is where helping can begin. For helping could in fact be described as a process of establishing the kind of relationship that can help exorcise fear. Helping cannot be centred on goals of the helper's own – his desire to succeed, or to be thanked, or to control another's life, or satisfy his own conscience. These are the things, often subtle, that prevent us helping another, and it takes sometimes a great deal of self-discipline and personal insight to be sure that they do not get in the way.
