ABSTRACT
The analyst must feel the patient's pain so as to achieve the cure of the pain—as an exorcistic transfer of "demons" from the patient to the analyst. In the manic defence the patient reverses the field by assuming the analyst's power and authority, projects his impotent vulnerability into the analyst, and displays triumph over and contempt and control of her. "Hurting love", in other words, can all too easily emerge as a consequence of inevitable analytic intimacy, and it is understandable that the analyst would be held responsible for its inevitable frustrating pain. The infliction and experience of suffering unites the two participant objects by a "branding pain" and an obligatory guilt that galvanises the intimacy of a relationship between the two and certifies its sanctity. Psychoanalytic sex", by contrast, aims primarily at the exploration, discovery, and acceptance of the fuller measure and meaning of one's sexual capacity as well as illuminating one's unconscious infantile sexual history.
