ABSTRACT
This chapter examines how two different theoretical orientations, object relations and attachment theories, contribute to the understanding of conflict in a couple's relationship. It explores the source of the insecure couple attachment with reference to two major theoretical frameworks: the level of object relations functioning of the couple and attachment styles in couple relationships. Countertransference feelings of impotence and hopelessness were experienced by the therapist when caught up in the "malignant third" that the couple had created from repeated excessive projective identifications with the other. The chapter suggests that viewing these dynamics from different perspectives is helpful for the therapist and ultimately for the couple, as it helps create a benign third position. It shows how achieving this therapeutic dimension was facilitated in a "sentient" peer group, which expanded the thinking space for the therapist and the couple. The couple was referred by the wife's analyst, who felt couple therapy was "their last hope".
