ABSTRACT
The cult leaders' plan for survivor included controlling their emotional life. They began by breaking or preventing their bond with their mother. This created a loneliness that hurts even physically and can be life-threatening. Young victims drag this emotional state throughout their childhoods, especially after the murder of their only designated friend. The emotional foundation of not having bonded creates a bleak fortress. Some can shed the loneliness drop by drop as they perfect their healing and enter into a life of their own choosing. Shame is sometimes underneath the loneliness. Some survivors can see that they were not responsible for what others forced them to do when they were children. In addition, as part of resolving shame, survivors have to deal with sexuality and their sexual responses. Underneath the loneliness, shame, rage, and depression comes guilt. Once the survivor realize the set-ups, guilt is not so hard to overcome.
