ABSTRACT
To splurge on about fear, rage, mistrust, let alone love and desire, is not seen really as professional cricket. Most psychoanalytically trained therapists worth their salt know this inside out. It's integral to their therapeutic being. Suffice to say that in any individual therapeutic relationship, there is a lot of feeling flying around between the two people involved, some consciously but more unconsciously. There are various theoretical ways in which we can understand our hatred, whether it be through the projection and externalisation of our patients experience into us or whether it be the terror that resides in ourselves. In the face of such extreme self-absorption in the patient, the therapist might well find himself bored, impatient, and ironically failing to keep attentive to the very selfish needs that are so pressing yet are driving him away.
