In 1980 I was invited to write a weekly 200-word column for the New York. Daily News, which advertises itself as the largest-circulation daily in the country. I knew they wanted something popular and a little titillating, not academic or political, but I thought I would see if I could find some way to present the ideas I was interested in anyway. The News called the column "Your Sexual Self," exactly the sort of privatized perspective I planned to preach against! I had to repeatedly resist the editors' request that I answer readers' questions in the column. I got lots of mail, but none of it ever commented on the columns; it all wanted advice. The News called it quits after six months; I have selected a few of those columns to include here.