Working with Derbyshire County Council’s Education Improvement team, the 2019 project Real for Me researched how young people can negotiate safer sexual boundaries. The normalisation of sexual abuse in online pornography and explicit imagery on social media make it less likely that young people will identify behaviour as abusive. The 2017 UK Public Health Report identified the ‘gap between children’s and young people’s conceptual understanding of sexual harm and the ability to identify this in their own lives’. Real for Me was a case study using applied drama methodology to research and empower young people to know what is real for them.