ABSTRACT
This chapter consists of some remarks on sexual desire made against the backdrop of the properties theory of romantic love. After presenting a sketch of the properties theory it is suggested that most lovers want to be sexually desired in virtue of aspects of themselves that they can appreciate. In making this suggestion we are embracing an element of mindfulness or erotic thinking that ordinarily accompanies romantic sexuality. We go on to resist possible charges of egocentricity in the account and to distinguish lovemaking from plain sex. It is hoped that this chapter functions as more than a minor corollary to earlier work by the author on principal aspects of romantic love; the idea instead is that the plausibility of this deployment of the properties theory first therein proposed structurally reinforces the plausibility of a general account of active romantic loving.
