ABSTRACT
Human beings mistreat each other. They have many ways of describing, explaining, and understanding a fundamental aspect of human life. Some mistreating takes place in a context of personal relationships and some does not; some descriptions of types of mistreatment can apply in both contexts. In this chapter, the author focuses on one type of description of mistreatment important in the morality of personal relationships: the notion of using people. The author describes several examples of what seem to be fairly standard cases in which the people would say that one person is using another in the context of a personal relationship. The idea that deception cannot by itself explain using is hardly surprising once the people can grasp the idea of deception-by-itself at all. Morality and human life being what they are, it is difficult to see how a type of confusion could ever completely cease to arise.
