ABSTRACT
What are the components of meaningful intimacy? This chapter opens with the author’s path to becoming an intimacy coach and sex speaker. Gunsaullus then discusses factors that interfere with meaningful intimacy, including shame around sexual beliefs and expression; how vulnerability is necessary for intimacy yet can evoke a fear of judgment because of our need for belonging. The concept of applied mindfulness is introduced, as a way to cultivate vulnerability and intimacy. Mindfulness with an accompanying focus on compassion is a key but often missing part of sexual health education and preventing sexual coercion. The chapter concludes by discussing how self-worth and vulnerability are foundational to meaningful intimacy and relationships.
