ABSTRACT
In recent decades, the couple and the family have undergone deep transformations due to a mutated economic and cultural environment. Recently, the pandemic has added further critical elements that make life even more complex. How to help today’s pairs to manage their conflicting dynamics? What guidelines is it possible to offer? Where do we start? Through the description of some clinical cases, the author offers a Gestalt therapy intervention model on the management of the couple conflict. The proposal is based on four specific points, which constitute a kind of “compass” for the therapist, which can guide them in the field that at any time of the session they co-build with the two partners. The “four cardinal points” are: focus of the background; attention to the aesthetic relational knowledge; support for mutual recognition; the revitalization of the integral function of the self. As a consequence, the conflict turns out to be not only a frustrating moment of “breaking” but above all a “repair” and “recognition” space.
