ABSTRACT
This chapter contributes to the understanding of ongoing emotional costs linked with migration which have often been undermined and overlooked. Delving into emotional loss/es impacting immigrant women it aims to fill a lacuna in the discussion of emotional rules for migrant women of South Asian origin. Using autoethnography, I articulate my description and management of emotions as a South Asian diasporic woman of colour. Reflecting upon my “violations” of prescribed “emotion cultures” in spaces of ritualised enactments of family ties, I mourn “lost conversations” with now deceased parents, while simultaneously reliving the loss of my childhood caregiver/nanny. Consequently, I wonder if I said “violations” may lead to these conversations becoming eternally discomfiting encrusted “co-presences” within my life’s emotional spaces.
