ABSTRACT
This chapter describes the encounters in detail in order to offer an impression of the intensity and the pain evoked by transgenerational processes and discoveries, the emotional upheaval they set in motion before their “cord can be cut” and they can be reintegrated in a new way. It presents the dialogue “live”, seen from both sides, and can reconstruct to a great degree how and why changes occur, and what reciprocal interpsychic and intrapsychic effects are set in motion. Psychoanalytic literature has brought to light the overriding significance of the feeling of shame, both as a ubiquitous phenomenon that every person must experience and endure, and as a traumatic experience that can have grave psychological effects. Classical theory posits that, while guilt derives from tension and a discrepancy between the ego and the superego, shame relates to tension between the ego and the egoideal.
