ABSTRACT
Death is a painful experience for relatives. It might be necessary to hear the expression of negative feelings at this time. Often, because of stress, events may not be seen in their true perspective. This is an opportunity to clarify any uncertainties and deal with any misunderstandings. Be aware of previous 'danger signals' which indicate that relatives might find it difficult to cope with the loss. These include the following: denial by the patient and/or relatives of the seriousness of the illness; and disputes and disagreements between the patient and their family. Confirm that death has occurred. After sitting watching an immobile patient who is hardly breathing, the family may be unsure if the death has actually happened. Acknowledge the input that the relatives have given. Some will have wanted more practical involvement than others, but acknowledgement of their presence with the patient and recognition of the stressful time that they are going through is always appreciated.
