ABSTRACT
Masculine gender socialization informs how boys and men think of masculinity and therefore how they measure up as men. Most male sexual predators and victims self-identify as heterosexual, yet male-on-male sexual abuse is often perceived as a sign of homosexuality in one or the other, or both. Male survivors of sexual abuse and assault frequently worry they themselves will become abusers, even if they have never experienced desires to be sexual with a child. Boys growing up with a predominantly gay identification may feel hurried into recognition of their sexual preferences. Following are stories of how lives of actual men in treatment unfolded following sexual betrayal. First is Nels, a victim of brutal incest. Second, Jozef, an athlete trapped by the coach who could bring him stardom. Third, Tucker, "lucky" enough to be seduced by his female educator. And, finally, Brandon, whose creepy relationship with his father subverted his emerging sexuality.
