ABSTRACT
The concept of 'relational needs in educational context' enables to observe and understand how all participants in the education process students and educators create and recreate their relationships in the way they need them in a specific moment. Like in a dance, they regulate closeness and distance, autonomy and the need for impact from the other, the need to feel accepted, or may be the need to appreciate the other and to express it. The educator can have a powerful role in facilitating negative or shame-based experiences of positive learning cycles, which help students to update their script through revising 'their theory in light of new evidence'. Learning involves change, and this process is accompanied by feelings of insecurity. Society, the organizers of education, teachers and trainers, often see education as a space where, alongside learning and development, healing experiences should also take place.
