ABSTRACT
This chapter describes a process by which a couple can restore their relationship after an occurrence of infidelity with one of the partners, and how therapy can be of best assistance. In traditional systemic therapy, infidelity in a couple relationship was simply seen as a symptom of an unhappy couple relationship. Therapy, therefore, most often took the perspective of the therapist engaging in couple therapy instead of directly addressing the issues and violations of trustworthiness connected with the infidelity. Some couples come to therapy after a discovered or revealed infidelity where the unfaithful partner intends to carry on the extra-marital relationship or is unsure about cutting the infidelity off. Most couples that experience an infidelity desire to move away from the damage of the affair and heal their openness, intimacy, and trustworthiness. Additional contraindications would include diagnosis of one of the partners with a personality disorder or for there to be the presence of couple violence.
