This chapter focuses on the wives, female partners and mothers of men who decide to change their sex. The majority of the literature on transgenderism represents the process of transition as an epic adventure in which individuals seek to find themselves. The husbands who make the decision to change sex are likely to have a history of cross-dressing. Cross-dressers who are exposed to transgender activism through the online transgender community are likely to develop the desire to go further than would once have been the case. Wives commonly complain about the impact of their husbands practice on the family finances. Wives are often deeply discomforted by the ideas that their husbands have about 'femininity' and womanhood, which are sometimes in stark contrast to their own. The main theme of both the training materials and of transgender pornography is 'feminisation', that is erotic humiliation, and in these rituals wives have a starring role.