ABSTRACT
The theme of this chapter is deploying coaching wisdom and focusing on being consciously competent. An example is given of delivering a coaching demonstration with good coaching practice, contracting, goal setting and ways of working. A case study is presented of the ‘less is more’ approach to enable deep insight. There is also an illustration of the power of positive parallel process as an antidote to the negative parallel. This comprises the importance of taking responsibility for one’s state of being as a coach and the importance of staying clean and separate. A further case study supports the assertion that not everybody is coachable on everything, underlining the maturity needed to decline a piece of work in a chemistry session, taking the ethical stance. There is recognition that a coach holds prejudices and can manifest these in unhelpful behaviours towards the client. There is a place for shame to surface and to be examined in the service of conscious competence.
