That’s a hard one to answer, Lester. Looking back over the hundreds of life stories I’ve collected, it does seem the vast majority of gay men are either between relationships, not looking for one, or resigned to the fact they may never be deeply involved with a partner, however much they desire it. That’s not to say there aren’t thousands and thousands of gay couples out there, for surely there are; whether you trust the numbers or not-and for the record most gay people don’t-U.S. Census figures from 2000 showed more than 300,000 gay male couples living together. Even if those figures are lowballed-and most gay people think they are-that seems at first glance like a lot of His-and-His matching towel sets.