An important part of what abusive men often fail to comprehend is the destructive and devastating impact of their violence, abuse, and control on their partners. Examining this impact is a theme throughout the program, and the development of empathy and compassion for your partner and others is a critical element if you are truly going to change. One way for men to better understand a woman's perspective on domestic abuse is to hear about it firsthand. A woman therapist who works with battered women will come to the group and talk about the healing process for women. She will also discuss the effects of the abuse and violence on your partners and children, from a woman's point of view.