ABSTRACT
One of the big questions we get from therapists is, “What do I do if I love my partner, but I’m no longer in love with my partner?” Most people feel that love is just one thing and that it shouldn’t change or transform over time. The news from my lab is that there are actually three natural phases of love in a lifetime. “Love” is therefore a very complex experience, and there are choice points in the life course when love may either progress to a deeper place, or deteriorate. Let’s examine what happens to love in a lifetime of love, and what factors determine our experience of love.
