ABSTRACT
Let us begin with two observations about chronic illness and death:
Because of these connections, when death comes too soon, the tragedy is often twofold: a tragedy both for the person who is now dead and for those of us to whom she was connected. We grieve both for our loved one who is gone and for ourselves who have lost her. On one hand, there is the unrealized good that life would have been for the dead person herself-what she could have become, what she could have experienced, what she wanted for herself. On the other, there is the contribution she would have made to others and the ways their lives would have been enriched by her.
