ABSTRACT
Couples present some of the most challenging work in relational therapy because, in many ways, they are so confusing. Here are two people who usually come together, and many married because they were intoxicated with love for one another. Yet, within a matter of months or years, they are coming to therapy because they simply cannot stand one another any more. Many are absolutely convinced that the partner is his or her enemy, and he or she cannot ever conceive how the thought of having a permanent relationship with this person ever could have worked. How did this couple who was once so in love lose one another along the way and become estranged, distant, and emotionally disillusioned?
