ABSTRACT
In movies desire is spontaneous and natural; the couple is turned-on and ready to go. There is no need for touching. The big screen offers up a powerful, seductive model that frankly has little relevance for your couple sexual style. The truth for real-life couples (especially those with jobs, kids, and house responsibilities) is that sexual desire involves finding personally inviting ways to anticipate and initiate sex. More than 80% of sexual encounters are planned or semi-planned, although spontaneous sex is particularly fun and valued. Most important, touch is integral to desire rather than desire spontaneously appearing.
