Exhausted when saying yes, guilty when saying no-it is between giving and taking, between other-care and self-care. is is a universal dilemma in the human drama. It is just more intense for those who are, by nature and inclination, emotionally attuned to the needs of others. It gets highly illuminated when intense human interaction-helping, teaching, guiding, advising, or healing-is the occupational core. Here, giving of oneself is the constant

requirement for success. Caring for others is the precious commodity. It is caring for the other, when by nature we are as a species geared to needs of the self, that provides much of the strength of these caring elds.