ABSTRACT

The limitations of a traditional idea of toleration have become apparent with the post-1970s rise and rise of Sexual diversity. A more radical version of toleration requires doing more than leaving other people alone. As Mendus argues (1987: 14), ‘it requires making opportunities for others and going out of one’s way to assist them’. It involves the fostering and recognition of diversity. This suggests that all forms of sexuality, except those which use other humans as mere means, are worthy of respect and recognition. That does not mean they cannot be criticized, but that should only be done if they are granted Recognition first, and if the criticisms follow the rules of civilized discourse. This positive form of toleration inevitably clashes with those who claim a special relationship to the truth in their opposition, say, to Abortion, or Homosexuality, or sex education for the young. The growing recognition of sexual diversity has been accompanied by the rise of new absolutism and of various forms of Fundamentalism. A dialogue across difference is difficult when only one side favours talking.