Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, New International Version I have been involved in the study of forgiveness-oriented, emotionfocused therapy for several years now: fi rst with individual clients (Malcolm & Greenberg, 2000; Malcolm, Greenberg, & Warwar, 2002; Malcolm, Warwar, & Greenberg, 2005; Warwar, Greenberg, & Malcolm, 2006), and then with couples (Greenberg, Warwar, & Malcolm, 2007; Malcolm, Greenberg, & Warwar, 2003; Malcolm & Waldorsky,

2005). Along with these research projects, I have worked with clients in my private practice who struggle to come to terms with the hurtfulness they have experienced (and caused) in relationships that matter to them. I have also read the literature and paid attention to the theoretical and empirical knowledge brought to bear on the topic of forgiveness by my colleagues in the fi eld. Th is chapter aff ords me the opportunity to pause and refl ect on an important aspect of the forgiveness process that we may be at risk of overlooking when we get caught up in investigating and advocating the potential benefi ts of forgiveness and forgiveness interventions in psychotherapy.