ABSTRACT
Shortly after a recent visit to South Africa to see how people there were moving forward with healing their country after the trauma of apartheid, I found myself telling a class of fourth-graders about that experience. After recounting some of the recent history of how Nelson Mandela and others, after much suffering and sacrifice, eventually brought about a peaceful change in society, I got on to the problem of healing the terrible memories. I wrote the African word ubuntu on the blackboard and told them that while some translate it as “forgiveness,” the Africans understand it as something like “to be sorry and to forgive.” You can’t have one without the other. They cannot happen alone.
