ABSTRACT
Traditionally, couples assumed sexual monogamy. In reality, infidelity was common, especially among men. The most common type of affair is a male High Opportunity/Low Involvement affair. When discovered, the couple fall into a power struggle where the woman feels betrayed and the man counterattacks saying that this is normal male sex behavior and she is overreacting. Few couples have a clear, specific dialogue about the role and meaning of monogamy and how to prevent affairs. Some couples choose the non-traditional approach and agree to consensual non-monogamy (CNM) or to be “monogamish”. What does this mean for each partner and their relationship? There is probably more “cheating” among CNM couples than monogamous couples. An exercise promotes dialogue about respect, trust, intimacy, and sexuality. We encourage a specific dialogue and agreement.
