ABSTRACT
The traditional blame-counter blame power struggle is whose fault is it that you are a no sex couple. This struggle is destructive for the woman, man, and couple. Desire problems are multi-causal and multi-dimensional. It is important to be aware of psychological, bio-medical, and social/relational factors that can inhibit desire. Increasing awareness and empathy and decreasing blaming and stigma are necessary. Approaching low sex, no sex, and desire discrepancy problems as an intimate sexual team is motivating and empowering. Low desire is the mutual enemy and you need each other as allies in confronting low desire and rebuilding your couple sexual style to value intimacy, pleasuring, and eroticism. Couples de-eroticize the partner and relationship rather than turn toward each other as intimate and erotic friends.
