ABSTRACT
The media emphasizes sexual spontaneity, but the reality is that the great majority of sexual encounters are planned or semi-planned. A key for desire is anticipation of pleasure-oriented touching and sexuality. Creating “his”, “her”, and “our” bridges to sexual desire is a motivating strategy.
The couple engage in a psychosexual skill exercise to build personally relevant ways to initiate a sexual encounter. You are not clones of each other. The more bridges to desire, the easier it is to invite your partner to share intimacy, touching, and eroticism. Rather than depending on spontaneity or drama, having bridges to desire allows you to invite your partner for a sexual encounter. Developing both individual and couple bridges facilitates anticipation and enhances strong, resilient desire.
