ABSTRACT
The ability to center oneself so as to completely and totally inhabit the present moment was one of the most relevant skills to creating optimal sexual experiences. The capacity to focus and be embodied was relevant across multiple areas, including mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. Learning how to become centred and focused in non-sexual areas may be good practice for developing the capacity to do so during sex. One man told us how he had learned to concentrate during sex. The ability to focus so deeply as to lose the self and be entirely immersed in a sexual encounter may be one of the most critical skills to develop, both as an individual and alongside a partner. A few individuals expressed their preference for some very specific and specialized sexual activities; in those cases, knowledge and skills related to their particular preferences were essential.
