ABSTRACT
Optimal sexual experiences involve being totally absorbed and immersed in the moment, an intense connection, being erotically intimate with another person, communicating empathically, taking risks, surrendering to one another, being authentic and accepting the very real possibility of transcendence and transformation. Sexologists need to re-evaluate their understanding of the spectrum of sexuality; to do otherwise means ignoring a wealth of information that could potentially be of great help to clients and the general public. Optimal sexual experiences require a choice to proceed up the mountain and a willingness to take on the challenges that arise. This can be risky and will certainly involve some discomfort. Although each individual and couple might need to find their own pathways up the mountain, some extraordinary lovers have pointed out a few trails.
