ABSTRACT
Sex feels good and we have a biological drive to seek it out. These are both true, but sex is much more than that, especially when it occurs within a relationship—and especially when it occurs within a long-term relationship that is full of stresses, big and small. There are many ways that couples connect and draw each other closer to counter the frustrations that push them apart. Sex is one of the few that simultaneously works at the physical, emotional, and intellectual levels. Couples who already have enough other things to fight over don’t need to also disagree about sex. Most of the respondents to the survey were ages 30–59 and living together in committed relationships. This isn’t that surprising: that is where things get more complicated for all couples. Add ADHD into the mix and things get even more complicated.
